A Happy Woman
Recently I came across a passage from the book, ‘Women’s Wellness Wisdom’ by Dr Libby Weaver and it really spoke to me.
I think it meant so much to me because I was unconsciously questioning myself about what it would take for me to a truly happy, honest to goodness, beaming from inside, lit up woman.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my life. I have a wonderful, loving husband and daughter. I live in an apartment over-looking the ocean in one of the most exciting cities in the world and I love the work that I do everyday. I have a truly AMAZING life and yet, recently something inside me has been, just kinda ‘off’.
I acknowledge that this year has been a doozy when it comes to unexpected curve-balls, so I know that has had something to do with it. Here are some examples:
Health: It started on the 1st January with flu coupled with Covid (which turned into long-Covid), plus ongoing plantar fasciitis in my left foot. Am finally starting to feel like myself again, thankfully.
Investment Property: The property had issues due to the humid summer weather in QLD. It meant we needed to find an unexpected extra $15k+ dollars to fix it, with more items that need to be addressed.
Car: My car was vandalised (it’s only 3 years old) so there’s been a lot of back and forth with the insurer - so that was another unexpected bill to pay and took lots of time to get organised.
Rental Property: Water ingress issue in the ensuite; as a result the ceiling fell in, so far it’s been 7 weeks without an ensuite with no resolution in sight. Plus we haven’t had a lift for 8 weeks due to planned works in the building, so we’ve been climbing 88 steps (11 flights) every time we come back to our home. It’s easy enough without bags, very challenging with them, lol, particularly shopping or cases.
Work: It’s been crazy busy. I’m lucky that I absolutely love everything that I am doing….and it’s been pretty relentless.
Cost of Living: Now this one has been an interesting pressure this year. Almost as insipid as water ingress, lol. Everything has increased in price, particularly day-to-day items at the supermarket, so it costs more to buy less. I am sure you can all relate.
So just a lot of ‘stuff’ to deal with.
So when I read this passage, it made me stop and immediately feel better. Here it is:
“A happy woman is a woman relaxed in her body and heart: powerful, unpredictable, deep, potentially wild and destructive, or calm and serene, but always full of life, surrendered to and moved by the great force of her oceanic heart.”
Yep that’s me.
As if that wasn’t evoking enough, Dr Libby then goes on to say:
“Women do not become “free” by analysing themselves. They become free by surrendering to love. Not anyone else’s love. Their love. They become free by surrendering to the immense flow of love that is native to their core, and by allowing their lives to be moved by this force. It may involve moments of analysis, but primarily it involved deep trust.”
Wow, that also hit me, not hard, but like a huge fluffy powder puff. I felt it and it felt nice, reassuring and, well, somehow right.
So the moral of this story is - if you are not feeling happy, then seek out people, experiences or evoking writing like this that bring you back to your true nature. Trust in love. It’s a powerful energy.
After I read this I gave my husband and daughter a hug. These passages spoke to me because they describe me well.
I care and I act with the great force of my oceanic heart.
I know this time will pass, everything will be resolved and that by surrendering to the immense flow of love, I’ll feel like ‘a happy woman’ once more.
Sending much love from me to you, Tee-Jay Xox
PS: The photo for this blog which was taken on Mothers Day; my lovely fambam got me some gorgeous croissants from the always fabulous, Lune. Now that’s one very happy woman right there! If you haven’t tried Lune croissants we highly recommend them, they are utterly sensational! x
